Well I don’t normally like to write about personal stuff, but I guess I can make an exception every once in a while.
I wanted to reflect on a conversation I had earlier with some friends about texting and relationships. Unfortunately technology has killed, or is in the process of killing the telephone conversation. Remember when you were in school and would talk on the phone for hours with your friends and/or that special guy/girl? I do, and every once in a while I miss it. I think it’s hard to keep up a conversation via text, and it’s really easy to misinterpret the emotional context of a text. Did that person really give you attitude, or did you just read it that way? This also applies to emails btw.
And lets not forget there can be misinterpretation when your text does not get answered immediately or within a few minutes, or even hours. Were you being ignored, they were busy, or just didn’t have their phone handy? All these things are subject to interpretation when texting.
Anyways, the one thing I very much miss is getting to know someone by phone. I would spend hours talking to my x boyfriend on the phone, especially when we first started dating. Although I hate to admit it, I miss having that. To make it worse, I’m way too uncomfortable calling the guy myself. How does that work out?! It doesn’t!
When you first start dating you can quickly tell whether or not a relationship will be able to flourish just by how easily you can share and engage each other in conversation via the phone. Of course going on dates is necessary as well, but its nice to know you can have someone to call and talk to.
Anyways, I find it hard to get emotionally attached to someone that I only text with. It feels like meaningless small talk. It’s just not the same in my opinion. Or maybe I just haven’t met the right guy? I suppose it is the latter.
On a sub topic…what is up with never meeting someone that is in the same stage of life as yourself? It’s always too much or too little experience. Where is the guy that is on the same page as yourself?
Anyways, leave a comment! I love comments! Even if you want to be anonymous. Also, I know there are some people out there that are just the opposite and love texting and hate calls. Is it possible to really get to know someone via text? What your opinion?